Keep The Spark Burning: Tips for Making Your Relationship Last

datingAll relationships start off perfect, like a Nicholas Sparks film. You are heads over heels in love with each other, you do everything together, and you constantly daydream about the other on an hour to hour basis.

But not all relationships go as planned. As painful as it might sound, most relationships fall into boring routine, wherein both parties are so used to each other that the excitement and fiery passion that were present in the initial stages of the relationship turns stagnant.

But this should not be the case.

Take a Look Inside

When did the boredom set in? And why? Sometimes the reasons are not external, but internal. For example, all relationships go quite stale after some time, but that doesn’t mean that the love is not there. If you’re a person who is always craving excitement, then the commitment of a long-term relationship might not be the right thing for you.

Or another reason is that you are, consciously or unconsciously, trying to keep relationships at a superficial level because you’ve already been hurt in the past. This might be a reason why you are afraid of developing your relationship, for fear of getting deeply hurt. Whatever the case, these are issues that you need to settle internally, and ideally, with the help of your loved one.

Pay Attention

If you’re a man, remember that your woman always wants you to pay attention to her. And you don’t even have to do anything major to make her feel special- even small things, like complimenting her on her looks or taking her on an unexpected date is enough to put a smile on her face.  If you’re a woman, remember that your man is not an emotionless rock that can go live without tender loving care. Compliments and positive statements go a long way. Your man needs a lot of attention and praise too.

Bringing Sexy Back

Romance is the spice that keeps relationships yummy. For women, get in touch with your sensual side.  Try to learn how to strip tease or pole dance. You can even try to read sex manuals together.

But it’s not all about the sex. Even simple romantic gestures, such as celebrating the first time that you’d met or your anniversary, giving her flowers on unexpected occassions, massaging each other’s back, can go a long way in reigniting the passion in a relationship.

Variety is the Key

Routine is boring. You might be so used to the everyday going-ons in your relationship that you don’t have anything to look forward to during the day. So, what is the solution to this problem? Simple: make an effort to try something new.

Are you an adrenaline junkie? Then go sky-diving or wall-climbing. Like to travel? Then go beyond the usual tourist spots and go climb a mountain together. Don’t settle for the usual movies and dinner dates routine- these things are easy. Do something that you both have never done before, and see the fire coming back into your lives.